Do you really wonder why your women friends suddenly go cold on you? Why they want to rush through sex like it's "a horrible chore?"Because it IS! It's all about YOU.

Dear Betsy,

Why is it that when you first meet a woman, she gives you all the sex you want and promises it will always be that way.  But once she knows she's got you, she only wants to have sex once a week (if that), and then says things like: "Hurry up, let's do it!"-- like it's a horrible chore we have to get through as quick as possible.                                                                                                 Signed, Mr. High N. Dry

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Dear Mister H & D,

Since you asked...I'd say you're on your way out.  Want to know why?  Because no self-respecting woman stays interested for very long in a guy who's focused on how much he can get instead of how much he can give or share.    

Since when is sex something anyone is supposed to give you?  What are you, a charity?  Even prostitutes don't give sex. THEY GET PAID. Do you really wonder why all your women friends suddenly go cold on you?  Why they want to rush through sex like it's "a horrible chore?"  Because it IS!  It's all about YOU.

My advice is to quit getting all pouty about how much sex you used to get.  Focus instead on giving...on enticing your lover with acts of kindness, tenderness, consideration and affection--not adolescent demands or whiny complaints.

Healthy relationships are a two-way street.  They're about give and take, not take and more take. So stop playing the victim and do something before it's too late.  When you look in the mirror, ask yourself: How good have I been at being attentive, caring, and interested in my partner's needs and wants?  My guess is: Not very.

The sooner you learn what really turns women on, the healthier your relationships will be. 

Good luck.
Betsy